Maybe you think anger is a bad thing, right? If yes, I feel that what you have is a belief, not a thought.
Allow me to share my belief about why I think anger is not a bad thing.
This last weekend, I attended a conference with more than 10,000 people. Every human being at that conference desired a change in their lives. More fulfillment, more achievement, love, money and so on.
To be sincere, my purpose going there wasn’t to change anything. My purpose was to learn, and perhaps to find The Holy Grail.
The Holy-Grail: How can people change?
The conference was 4 days total immersion, but I left early, just attending 2 of the days. Why?
I’m at peace and I can accept others’ beliefs, however, I was struggling with my own principles, values, and beliefs. What’s true for me is that change comes from the inside to the outside, and not in the other way around. Not in an artificial way. If you want to put it in another way, I got angry with myself and left.
Side story – How did I get the money to attend a 1,000 Pound conference?
Three months ago, I invested some money in Ethereum. I made nearly 1,000 pounds of profit with my investment in three months, so, I thought that if I invested the profit money in learning something new it would be better than investing in Ethereum.
When I made the decision to leave the conference, I thought that maybe I could get my money back, because:
- I would not be attending all the event;
- They have a money-back policy;
- It’s a lot of money;
So, I thought that maybe I could get my money back. For some reason, I had an insight and remembered something that I learned: “This is clearly a Sunk Cost. Let it go…”
And I did. However, I felt anger because of that decision.
How do people change?
I think people don’t have good or bad emotions or behaviors. People have emotions and behaviors. Period.
Normally, we associate anger with a bad behavior. In Top Down, I truly believe that anger creates an internal motivation for change.
In 2011, Marcia Reynolds published an article in Psychology Today arguing that anger could initiate the positive shifts that people need to change their lives. She asserts that people must allow themselves to feel a strong emotion, like anger, before they can be fully committed to making a complex change in their self-concepts and behaviors.
In other extensive research, Jennifer Lerner and her team at the Harvard Decision Science Laboratory found that anger encourages people to believe they can control their future and motivates them to take risks.
Not only because of this research, I truly believe that people can change if they are in a state of deep anger over something, which allows them to overcome it with a motivation for change.
Why the name Angry Ventures?
I don’t count, but if I had a nickel for every time that people asked me: “Why the name Angry Ventures? Why Angry?” I would have a ton of nickels.
Giving an answer to that, firstly, it’s a catchy name. Secondly, I truly believe that anger creates an internal motivation for change. And if we have the opportunity to understand why we do what we do at Angry Ventures. We do what we do to help people overcome their obstacles, and we do it through technology.
For people to overcome their obstacles, they have to dance with life. And for that, they need an internal motivation, because people do what they do for some reason. Always, they have a motivation for everything. In this vision, anger can be a great drive to transform that frustration in a motivation and desire to create new things.
If I felt anger with the experience at my bank, maybe a better solution would be building myself a solution for that.
I can go further: thousands of great companies were made with this mindset:
- There are more here.
Why Angry? That’s why. Anger can be your fuel to bring something new, something fresh, and also give you the motivation for action. After the anger comes the calm. Sorry, a venture.
I’m sharing all these little stories with you because I felt that all my anger in this weekend was the drive, was the internal motivation to explore the remaining 48 hours of my weekend on a total immersion to iterate things. That anger made me question old beliefs, principles, and values.
So, the investment I made in the conference was clearly a sunk cost, however, if I hadn’t attended the first two days of the conference maybe I wouldn’t have had the anger; and by consequence the motivation and the desire to change. Also, it gave me the power to take action and execute.
That’s how magic and change are made. From inside to outside. From deep. The remaining two days brought a new vitality to Angry Ventures. After all, I’m grateful.
P.S. If you want to learn how to get angry, go ahead.